Entitlement, wow. what a word...just think about it for a minute...what does it really mean?
I had a chat with a very dear friend over the weekend and one word that was brought up was, entitlement.
So I pose this question to all my blogland friends, are we truly entitled to anything in life? What about in ttwd/DD
Here's my humble opinion...
I think the only thing we are truly entitled to (as adults) is the right to make a choice, for example:
I'm not entitled, or owed, a job. No company, business or industry owes me a job. I do however have the choice to search for opportunities that are available, fill out the proper paper work, mail a resume and continue the search until I am blessed with a job.
I'm not entitled to good health, I have the choice to exercise, eat healthy and get plenty of rest. Does that mean that if I make all the right choices that I will be guaranteed good health? My odds will be better but nothing is guaranteed.
So this leads me to ttwd and DD, am I entitled or owed anything in a relationship? Is he? Other than physically and emotional safety.
Just wanted to see what your opinions are...
Great question Sass! I agree with you on physical and emotional safety and would add respect.
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Roz
Thanks, Roz. I just thought it would be interesting to see what all the ladies have to say about it. I agree about respect too.
DeleteWe went to a marriage seminar at church recently & it was actually a presentation on DVD called "imarriage" & it was really great! It talked about how before we get married we are full of desires for what our life will be like, the car, house, family, husband/wife & then somewhere along the way those desires turn into expectations. Once we put expectations on our husband/wife we start feeling let down because we are not getting what we think we are "owed" & our marriage becomes an "Imarriage". "I want this and I deserve that" etc then nothing will ever be good enough. But, if we put those expectations back in the desire box & we look to only love our spouse the way Christ loves us, truly put their needs before our own, we are able to reach true fulfillment. Sorry this is so long I just get really excited about the message that we heard that day. The DVD is one I plan to buy & I want to have all my kids, nieces, nephews, & anyone else I love who isn't married & have them watch it so they go into marriage with a better mindset than most of us did/do.
ReplyDeleteAndy Stanley is the pastor who does this seminar incase you want to YouTube it
Love,
Scarlet ; )
Scarlet, this is so true, failed expectations lead to an 'I marriage'. I'm going to have to find that on youtube, I'm sure it will beneficial no matter where we are in our marriages. Thanks
DeleteSass
Hmmm, I'm going to have to think about this one.
ReplyDeleteI think that a sense of entitlement can be a very slippery road, in any aspect of life.
Living in a power exchange relationship, I don't feel like I am entitled to anything except being heard and protected to the best of his abilities.
What he does with that is his call. I have handed over control, I think that he's entitled to whatever he chooses, because that is the structure of our relationship...