Courage, and a Toast to the Real Women of Blogland

Dearest Friends,

I haven't posted in quite awhile, partly because of the "busyness" of summer and more recently because I hit a wall.  Not a physical wall, but an emotional one.  With the recent events in blogland "coming to light" I realized that I felt very strongly about the situation and everytime I tried to write or post something unrelated it was like my fingers refused to type anything other than my thoughts on this situation. So without further delay and mainly so I can process it and move on here's my "2 cents" on the topic.  My heart goes out to all involved and hopefully all involved will find healing.

When I first heard about the deception that had occurred, it was from Christina's own confessional blog post. At first I thought, "Wow, that takes some courage" to ask forgiveness and admit a wrong-doing.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realized no, it doesn't take courage to do that, it takes the same amount of courage for a bank robber to ask forgiveness from the court right before he is sentenced...

I don't know the whole story, and I won't pretend that I was extremely hurt by her deception; however, how do you supposedly lie to "friends" for years?  I won't go into "Why it is wrong to lie." We all know the answer to that, What I will say is it takes way more courage to be real to start with.  I can't stand to be lied to or have someone steal from me. 

Sooo, let me say this too, if you want to be a friend of mine, please don't pretend to be something you're not, because I won't take it as well as some of the others here in blogland, I might actually get alittle "rowdy" about it.  So please be honest.  We don't have to agree but if we are not honest with ourselves and our friends, then it is all in vain.  Trust is the foundation for any relationship so if you're honest, we're going to get along just fine, otherwise find somewhere else to go, because the "Real Women of Blogland", you know the ones courageous enough to say, "We don't have it all figured out but we're still here and we care."; those of us that are sincere and not playing games with other's emotions, yeah, we don't deserve anymore crappy drama. So go peddle your shit lies somewhere else, because trust me, it will all come to light one day and you'll wish you hadn't lost such wonderful friends by making up stories just to fit in.  This is not just aimed at Christina, it is anyone, (you know who you are) that is not being honest with the community!

I would say I'm sorry if that seems harsh to some of you, but I'm not sorry. It should be harsh, it is a warning.  If one of my children lied to me, I would not coddle them and say lying hurts others (maybe when they were young) but even my youngest who is under 5 knows better and knows that lies come with consequences.  So my warning is harsh, be honest with me or go somewhere else!


So, today I raise my glass (imaginary of course), to all you wonderful ladies out there in blogland the truly courageous women that share their ups and downs with us and stop by to encourage others in their process of striving for a happier marriage. The women that are honest, maybe not about names as just about all of us have "pen" names, but honest about their experiences. 

To you ladies....Cheers, Salud or whatever you're supposed to say during a toast!!!