Suggestions, Please?

Those of you that have read my blog posts have learned that I am easily swayed by certain friends and family memebers' negativity.  So I just got off the phone with one of my sisters, she's in a foul mood and is making a conscious choice to be pissed.  Pissed at her hubby, children, me, our other sisters and life in general today.  Towards the end of our conversation I told her she seemed to be acting ungrateful and that she shouldn't choose to be pissed cause then she'll just ruin her day...

*Patting myself on the back for my wonderful sisterly advice*

Too bad it wasn't received well and she ended up hanging up the phone on me.  We have our little spats and this will pass, but the last time something like this happened I ended up getting toasted because I let it (the negativity and hatefulness) seep into my own attitude. So I'm going to be proactive.  I'm going to do some things that make me feel submissive, while Foreman is still at work and when he gets home.  So far this is what I've come up with:

Doing something around the house that he would like done but hasn't asked me to do.

Making him a wonderful snack for when he comes home.

Send him a sweet text.

Rub his shoulders when he gets home.

Sit in front of his chair on a pillow on the floor while we watch tv. (He's never asked me to do this, but I love to.  He always rests his hand on my neck or shoulders.

Fix his plate first for dinner ( I usually do this anyway when we are eating at someone else's house or are not eating at the table but tonight I will even while we are at the table.



I have a few others but didn't want to share anything too graphic ;-)

So any suggestions???? 

Courage, and a Toast to the Real Women of Blogland

Dearest Friends,

I haven't posted in quite awhile, partly because of the "busyness" of summer and more recently because I hit a wall.  Not a physical wall, but an emotional one.  With the recent events in blogland "coming to light" I realized that I felt very strongly about the situation and everytime I tried to write or post something unrelated it was like my fingers refused to type anything other than my thoughts on this situation. So without further delay and mainly so I can process it and move on here's my "2 cents" on the topic.  My heart goes out to all involved and hopefully all involved will find healing.

When I first heard about the deception that had occurred, it was from Christina's own confessional blog post. At first I thought, "Wow, that takes some courage" to ask forgiveness and admit a wrong-doing.  But the more I thought about it, the more I realized no, it doesn't take courage to do that, it takes the same amount of courage for a bank robber to ask forgiveness from the court right before he is sentenced...

I don't know the whole story, and I won't pretend that I was extremely hurt by her deception; however, how do you supposedly lie to "friends" for years?  I won't go into "Why it is wrong to lie." We all know the answer to that, What I will say is it takes way more courage to be real to start with.  I can't stand to be lied to or have someone steal from me. 

Sooo, let me say this too, if you want to be a friend of mine, please don't pretend to be something you're not, because I won't take it as well as some of the others here in blogland, I might actually get alittle "rowdy" about it.  So please be honest.  We don't have to agree but if we are not honest with ourselves and our friends, then it is all in vain.  Trust is the foundation for any relationship so if you're honest, we're going to get along just fine, otherwise find somewhere else to go, because the "Real Women of Blogland", you know the ones courageous enough to say, "We don't have it all figured out but we're still here and we care."; those of us that are sincere and not playing games with other's emotions, yeah, we don't deserve anymore crappy drama. So go peddle your shit lies somewhere else, because trust me, it will all come to light one day and you'll wish you hadn't lost such wonderful friends by making up stories just to fit in.  This is not just aimed at Christina, it is anyone, (you know who you are) that is not being honest with the community!

I would say I'm sorry if that seems harsh to some of you, but I'm not sorry. It should be harsh, it is a warning.  If one of my children lied to me, I would not coddle them and say lying hurts others (maybe when they were young) but even my youngest who is under 5 knows better and knows that lies come with consequences.  So my warning is harsh, be honest with me or go somewhere else!


So, today I raise my glass (imaginary of course), to all you wonderful ladies out there in blogland the truly courageous women that share their ups and downs with us and stop by to encourage others in their process of striving for a happier marriage. The women that are honest, maybe not about names as just about all of us have "pen" names, but honest about their experiences. 

To you ladies....Cheers, Salud or whatever you're supposed to say during a toast!!!

Meet the Man

It's been a crazy weekend.  There has been so much that has happened good, bad and even ugly.  I won't bore you all with the details as most of it is just regular life at my house.  But it was one of those weekends where you are drained from the emotional highs and lows.  The details aren't important what is important is that when I look back over the past weekend, month, year there is one thing that has been constant (other than God's love) and that is my husband, my Man.
 

Anyways, this got me to thinking about my husband and how wonderful he is at helping me think things through.  So I thought I would use this post to introduce everyone to my husband.  Throughout blogland there are several blogs with interesting names for their husbands.  Sarah @ Clear as Mud has He-man, Stormy has Ogre, Susie has (MM) Mischief Manager, and etc... I have always wanted to give him a blog name but he always said "hubby" is fine.  That is until...this past weekend.  I had asked him again about it because it is hard for me to talk about him like he doesn't have a name soooo, without further adu(is that spelled right?)

Meet...

My Foreman, no not Fireman, Foreman :)

Funny little side story, we were laying in bed one night and I was talking about the names I wanted to use and gave him a list one of them was "the Wall" mainly because of a post from last year about wall-time and the fact that he is a "protector", anyways when I said it, he stopped looked at me and with a huge grin on his face said, "So, do you wanna, climb the wall?"  ;)

He finally decided on the Foreman, I love it, ummm not as much as I enjoyed "climbing the wall" but oh, well. ;-)

I hope you all have a wonderful week!

Sass

Bear Hugs and Prayers

I hope everyone had a fabulous 4th of July, although it seems there are those that spent their 4th struggling and some that continue.  Our family's prayers go out to little Emily, Jim, Christina and their family as well as Bas and his family.  It's amazing how I don't know either one of them but I know the love this community has for them all and that in itself is a testament to them.
Continuing to send Bear Hugs and prayers from our little corner of the world.

Sassafrass