Testing, Testing....Is this thing working?

A few days ago we had to sit down and define some real rules and expectations.  When we first started his idea was no definite rules but I could set some goals and he would enforce those along with the requirement of respect.  Sounded great...in theory.  The first week went well, then the second week was okay and the third week was unproductive (on my part).  I asked if we could talk about it after the kids went to bed and he agreed. 

I don't think this is working.  I've gotten a few "punishment" spankings and yet I still feel unfocused.

So you need more rules? More...punishments?

I dunno, maybe.  At least some structure.  I need to know what really matters to you too.

Okay, go get some paper and we will write down a few expectations- each of us.

Here's some of what he wrote down

 

 

TO DO: Everyday

 

Make Bed No problem I do that anyway.

 

Laundry until caught up (Not in baskets in the chairs in the living room)

Isn't that where it's suppose to go so the kids can find their socks in the morning?

 

Kitchen straightened after dinner You know I have to feed everyone again tomorrow?!!?

 

5 to 10 minutes a day spent in the living room area

 

Exercise (some kind of activity everyday) This was my goal now it is his requirement.  I started well but didn't do anything in this area for three days straight.

 

Then he wrote this:

Options for me to take after 3 violations for which you have already gotten spankings

 

I can take your coffee maker *gasp* I must have passed out and started mumbling in an unconcious state "I don't consent to that" because at the bottom of the page he wrote in big letters-

 

Eyebrows Down!!

I don't need your consent, No I don't!

Because I said SO!!

 

There were other options also but the coffee maker????  Really??

 

I guess he knows how to motivate because I walked 2 miles today!

 

What motivates you all?? Is there a specific amount of spankings, privileges taken or rewards given?

 

Disclaimer: I didn't really pass out, it was added for dramatic effect, and my coffemaker still sits in all of its Caffienated glory on my kitchen counter, although I think it did start to leak some tears that night at the thought of us being separated for a short time. :(