Well friends, we've decided to do Bootcamp. However, because of our schedules and our inability to have 2-3 days alone the Foreman decided to spread it out over a 4-5 day time frame. He's asked me to write down a rough draft of what I think those 4-5 days should look like (my expectations, goals, etc...) and then he will sit down and tweak it to include or exclude activities that he thinks are or aren't necessary.
Now I know some of you may say, how will you do this with the kids around? We talked about that and we both decided that our adapted version would actually push us both to be more creative and consistent with ttwd/dd in our regular lives. If you remove the daily activity of life with our kids, jobs, etc...then mine and Foreman's stress levels are way down which is good, but not reality for us. For me, a vacation-type bootcamp would just set us up for disappointment when we went back to real life. This way we are able to work on some issues and goals, while also ironing out the kinks of this lifestyle in our everyday lives. In fact that is one of our goals, to see how we can accomplish this better and more effectively in our daily lives.
Don't worry our children will not be aware of anything different.
So I have a schedule and activities to work on, if those of you that have completed a bootcamp have any advice or comments please let me know in the comment section or you can email me at
1sassafrassladyatgmail.com
Thanks,
Sass
I think you will do brilliantly. You've already learned one of the most important rules, and that is to approach TTWD naturally and without manipulation.
ReplyDeleteBoot camp is not something we would do as we are not really DD as such, but I admire people who decide it is for them. Come back and tell us all about it and what you learned not only about the dynamic, but about each other.
Hugs
Ami
Thanks, Ami. That was the hardest part for me. I feel like ttwd is truly becoming "this thing WE do", not ttwd like others. I think that's why we are both ready for bootcamp now unlike before.
ReplyDeleteHey honey :) nice to see you about again :)
ReplyDeleteGreat idea to focus on how to organise things with kids about. I'm sure many ladies including myself will be interested to know what you guys learn. Good luck
Hugs x
Missy, so glad you stopped by! :) Thanks, that is really what we needed. We plan to start next week sometime. Foreman will let me know, but I'll definitely let you all know how it goes.
ReplyDeleteI'm happy for you. Regardless of what you actually do, or how everything turns out, you are thinking and planning and working together. TTWD is done to improve our marriages and just the planning is doing that. I envy you a little, Nick has never been in it to this level. I'm looking forward to seeing how everything goes.
ReplyDeletePK, Thanks for stopping by. You're absolutely right just the planning alone is improvement. I really am trying to follow his lead, especially on this issue and we are both trying to make ttwd, more customized for our needs as a couple. I'll be sure to keep you all posted. :-)
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