Rain, Emotional Eating and Modified Boot Camp

Hi, friends.  It's been a hectic and on some level, discouraging weekend. Life happened this weekend.  It happens to us all and to some more than others...and sometimes it really SUCKS.  Life isn't fair, it "rains on the just and the unjust" and sometimes the rain doesn't ever seem to be stopping.
Well at our house we had thought the 'rain' had stopped at least long enough for a rainbow to show through, then all of sudden here comes the rain...again. Now it's not a downpour or a 'hurricane' but still it's that consistent, annoying, "life stinks sometimes" kinda rain and there isn't anything I can do about it!  All this 'rain' has absolutely nothing to do with dd/ttwd but it did affect our modified boot camp schedule but the 'rain' itself was the most discouraging of all, in fact we actually continued on with our dd activities which I think helped me process things better.  I also got a wonderful evening with Foreman on Sunday, we had dinner out with another couple and then watched a movie snuggled on the couch afterwards. 

Boot camp went according to plans, sorta... the point was to have it during our regular life so week could adapt and continue.  After our talk on Sunday evening we both felt like we had accomplished that goal; howeve we both didn't truly feel like it was a "boot camp".  We got our feet wet, this time and if Foreman decides to do another then we'll see if we will set it up the same or different.  I'm actually pleasantly surprised at everything we were able to accomplish during our regular everyday lives and how close I feel to him, and how we both grew a little more comfortable in our roles throughout the week.  So my final opinion, it was a success.  Will we adjust more next time? Definitely. Will we ever do it again? I hope.

So what does this post have to do with emotional eating?  Well, due to the weekend 'rain' I've been on the phone and email with doctors and hospitals etc...all morning and a good part of the weekend.  I could have ha a wonderful breakfast this morning of eggs, or oatmeal, something healthy but no, I'm having roasted garlic triscuits with cheese melted on top! lol  So here's to emotional eating after the 'rain'. 

Hugs,
Sass

Bootcamp and Sweet Texts

Ok folks we're on day 2 of our boot camp yesterday went well. Like I've said before we're not doing the boot camp by the book.  I actually bought the book last year and we used some of it but adapted most of it to fit our goals and...so far so good.

Here's how we set ours up:

We're doing our for 4 days Saturday is last day

Still keeping our regular, daily schedules

3 sessions daily each with a purpose or theme

Homework assignments are done separately except the last one will be done together on Saturday
Ex. of homework:  He decided that throughout the day today he wanted me to feel loved and beautiful so he wanted to send me 10 texts throughout the day about what he loves about me. :-)
I thought this was a better idea than him just writing them down too.  I've already received 2 and I'm feeling very loved right now.

Areas of focus are my time management while at the house, my exercising and his comfort level with effectively incorporating this lifestyle (ie, privacy, effective use of other methods).  The time management and exercise were my requests and where I want to improve.

We didn't have a date night before we started, we decided to wait until we are finished.  It's a pretty laidback week, not typical boot camp, but I think we're accomplishing what we set out to do.

I've got plenty to do to day so I better run.  Hope you're all having a wonderful week.

Hugs,

Sass

Preparing for Bootcamp

Well friends, we've decided to do Bootcamp.  However, because of our schedules and our inability to have 2-3 days alone the Foreman decided to spread it out over a 4-5 day time frame.  He's asked me to write down a rough draft of what I think those 4-5 days should look like (my expectations, goals, etc...) and then he will sit down and tweak it to include or exclude activities that he thinks are or aren't necessary. 

Now I know some of you may say, how will you do this with the kids around?  We talked about that and we both decided that our adapted version would actually push us both to be more creative and consistent with ttwd/dd in our regular lives.  If you remove the daily activity of life with our kids, jobs, etc...then mine and Foreman's stress levels are way down which is good, but not reality for us.  For me, a vacation-type bootcamp would just set us up for disappointment when we went back to real life. This way we are able to work on some issues and goals, while also ironing out the kinks of this lifestyle in our everyday lives.  In fact that is one of our goals, to see how we can accomplish this better and more effectively in our daily lives.

Don't worry our children will not be aware of anything different.

So I have a schedule and activities to work on, if those of you that have completed a bootcamp have any advice or comments please let me know in the comment section or you can email me at
1sassafrassladyatgmail.com

Thanks,

Sass

Stunt drivers, transitions and boot camp????

I am not a stunt driver however these days I feel like one…

The best analogy I have ever heard for ttwd and Dd is the car scenario.  You can only have one driver, both can be in the front of the vehicle but only one can drive.  It makes perfect sense and I agree completely and I want my husband in the driver’s seat.  The problem comes in when we are trying to change seats.  Life doesn’t stop and so neither has our car…I feel like we are heading down the interstate at 70 miles an hour and we are trying to change seats. 

 Tricky stuff, right? 

If you’ve ever seen an action movie when two people have to change positions in a high speed chase it doesn’t look easy and at some point in the scene there will be no one holding the steering wheel.  That’s what I feel like today. 

 We are in transition, he’s climbing over the car console to trade with me and I am trying to scoot under him and we are both reaching for the steering wheel.  Sometimes he has it firmly in his hand and then other times it feels as though his foot or something may be stuck and he lets go to take care of that, I freak out and jerk the wheel back and almost make us crash!!!  This ttwd is definitely changing the way we do things around here, I just wish we could stop the car and calmly open our respective doors get out of the car and return to our new seats, then start driving again.   But how do we do that, life doesn’t stop nor does it slow down for us these days.  Maybe some sort of bootcamp would be a safer transition?  I don’t know.  I am sure the transition will never be easy or always permanent (I’m sure there will need to be reminders and such) it just feels sort of …reckless. I hope I am making some sort of sense but I doubt it.  Until his HoH bottom is firmly planted in the driver's seat and my bottom is firmly planted in the passenger seat here I sit straddling the console under him; one hand on the wheel and one hand wrapped around him, balancing and praying that God will help him guide this car during the transition and that if we both let go for a moment then atleast God will have the wheel. 

If you all have any advice on the transition or boot camp or stunt driving I’d love to hear it!